When life gives you lemons – When pregnancy gets you down: Part 1

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There are many common symptoms in pregnancy. We hear about them all the time. Morning sickness, back ache, the occasional urine infection. Most women end up having these complaints at some points during their pregnancy. If you are a lucky sod you may sidestep all of these little niggles and blossom like mother nature intended.

What about when certain symptoms, although not life changing and catastrophic, end up filtering through and impacting on your pregnancy experience? I don’t mean the complications that mean you are admitted to hospital or that mean you need to make life or death decisions about your baby, I mean annoyances that translate to the lay person saying, “Oh, I had that, but I just got on with it”.

The kind of symptoms I mean are:

  • Morning sickness that lasts until much later into your pregnancy or until the end. Rather than hyperemesis where you need hospitalisation.
  • Back ache that means you can’t continue with your usual day-to-day jobs.
  • Recurrent UTIs (Urinary Tract Infections).
  • Carpel Tunnel Syndrome.
  • Sciatica.
  • Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction (SPD)/Pelvic Girdle Pain (PGP).
  • Antenatal depression.

These are only a few I can think of, off the top of my head. These complaints aren’t going to alter your method of delivery or require you to be in hospital for extended periods but they do have an impact on your mental health which is significant.

For me, I’ll be honest, I have not enjoyed being pregnant. I have not bloomed and my skin is grey and haggard. I have severe SPD/PGP which means I am getting increasingly immobile. I have to use crutches to go outdoors, so I avoid going out. People look at me when I do leave the house, so I feel embarrassed. I have had to finish work much earlier than I planned as I physically couldn’t work on a busy labour ward with the pain. I feel isolated with no mummy friends yet to reach out to.

These aren’t complaints which impact on our pregnancy outcomes (other than, for me, the methods of pain relief I will choose) but it impacts on you! I also suffered with morning sickness until I was 21 weeks pregnant. I lost a stone in weight before I even started showing.

I have no resolution for the women with these plights or similar. Just that you need to keep your chin up. You may not be enjoying life right now, I know how you feel, but it isn’t forever. I take the positives from the negatives and remind myself that, although these symptoms are annoying and make my life hard, it is all for a purpose. Our little bundles of pink or blue joy that our body is growing to our physical and mental sacrifice will signify the end of these problems. There is a time limit. 40 weeks. I am on the countdown… 6 more to go.

For the women in hospital and suffering with much harder situations. I’m there with you too. I’ve held many hands and hugged many women to support them through the toughest times. I have suffered situations during my pregnancy that had me sat next to you in hospital, worried for my baby just like you are. For you I have a dedicated post which I will publish at a later date. Right now I can’t talk about certain situations, there are some that are too close to the bone for me to blog about right now. But I will. I haven’t forgotten about you.

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