OMG your baby weighs what?! So recently I’ve come to a realisation – women are obsessed with weight. I know that’s a completely new revelation isn’t it! Never heard of before.
But really what gets my goat (I don’t actually have a goat, nor do I want one; if it was an alpaca then we’re talking) is how, as mums, weight still seems to be a central problem. Now I don’t just mean the baby belly we all inevitably gain post birth, but we are also obsessed with how much our babies gain! I’ve spent many a morning at the weighing clinic, and at some points I’ve been worried about how my daughter hasn’t gained as much as she should. That’s not what upsets me, it’s the competition between mums as to how much your baby has gained and how much they weighed equivalent at the same age. It’s almost a badge of honour for being a “good mum”.
Come on! You don’t get a flaming prize for your baby being on the 90th centile or the 25th. It’s not a race to the finish line.
Please don’t misinterpret me, I completely understand why people worry about their babies weight and I do myself, I am solely on about the competition between mums and the smug satisfaction when their baby weighs the heaviest or has gained the most.
MUMS… it has nothing to do with you. We all know that the lighter babies aren’t light because their parents aren’t feeding them. It can be down to a cow”s milk protein allergy, reflux, lactose intolerance amongst other issues. Those parents end up feeling like rubbish because other mums have little chunky monkeys, and they feel they’ve done something wrong. Your baby will weigh what they weigh and that’s that, it can just be how your baby is. You can do everything possible and still have a little one on the 4th centile; some people are bean poles as adults, some are a little more cuddly, it’s only natural our babies would have the same variations.
If you’re a mum with a tiny baby on a smaller centile or with a feeding issue, please don’t lose heart. Just ignore those mums that make you feel like crap and move on, there is going to be another mum in exactly the same boat as you, just around the corner. And lets face it, they’re way more fun to hang around with!
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